Rather than spend the summer at home, you’re off on a new adventure. It’s fun! It’s exciting! But you don’t know anyone where you’re going. While that’s certainly part of the appeal, it’s also something that you’re a little worried about. How can you make friends in a new city? Fear not – we’ve got some tried and true tips just for you. Read on to learn some easy ways to rebuild your social circle, and make friends in a new city.
Look for friends everywhere.
As you’re picturing your new city and what it’s going to be like to live there, you’ve probably got a picture of what your new friends should be like. Looking for friends that match your idea of who your friends should be can cause you to miss out on a lot of opportunities. Let go of those thoughts and be open to meeting new people. After all, you never know which connections will really stick.
Don’t worry about rejection.
At some point during your quest for friendship you’ll likely be rejected, and that’s ok. You just need to keep going. Make an effort to talk to people. Some might look at you like you’re crazy, but others will engage you in conversation. Just taking the time to talk to someone new can be exciting – even if you never see them again. Plus, it’s a good way to practice your conversation skills.
Do something you’re interested in.
If you like soccer, join a soccer league. If you’re into photography, sign up for a class. Choose and activity that you know you’ll enjoy, and just do it. Why? Not only is it the chance to hone your skills, it’s also the perfect opportunity to meet people with a common interest. And that’s – ta-daaa! – a great way to make new friends.
Search for local networks.
Some cities have local social networks that are specifically targeted to people who are looking to make new friends. These organizations often host group activities, from meet ups at a local pub, to a shared day out or activity. If you’re serious about meeting people, this is a good way to find others who, like you, are on the lookout for potential new friendships.
Don’t be afraid to explore your new city alone.
Those first few days in a new city can be challenging for anyone. But don’t miss out on the opportunity to enjoy your own company. Sure, it may seem difficult to sit in a restaurant by yourself, but once you get over that hurdle it’s pretty easy to strike up a conversation with your server, the bar tender, or the person next to you. Ask about things to do, or favorite local hangouts, and see where the conversation takes you from there.
Don’t be hard on yourself.
Making new friends takes time – so don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t have a completely new social circle in your first week, or even your first month for that matter. Stay positive, and be patient. You know that you’re a great person, and eventually, your new friends will know that too! Remain open to friendship-making opportunities. You never know when a potential new friend will appear.